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Kink & Poly Counselling
Affirming Support for Kink, Polyamory & Non-Monogamy
You shouldn’t have to educate your counsellor about your relationships, sexuality, or kink before you can get to the reason you came. I offer a nonjudgmental space where kink, BDSM, polyamory, and other forms of consensual non-monogamy are understood without assumptions or stigma.
Whether you’re exploring something new, navigating differences with a partner, working through communication or boundaries, or simply looking for support from someone who understands these communities, we can focus on what matters to you without treating your relationship structure or sexual interests as the problem.
What is Kink & Poly-Affirming Counselling?
Kink and poly-affirming counselling provides a space where your sexuality and relationship structure are understood in context, rather than automatically treated as something that needs to be changed. You can talk openly about kink, BDSM, polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, and the relationships and communities connected to them without having to start with the basics.
The focus is on what brings you to counselling. That might include communication, boundaries, navigating different needs or interests, exploring identity, adjusting to changes in a relationship, or working through challenges that may have little to do with kink or non-monogamy at all.
Affirming doesn’t mean assuming that everything is working well. We can explore difficulties, uncertainty, conflict, consent, relationship agreements, or patterns you'd like to change without assuming that kink or non-monogamy itself is the cause.
Why work with me?
Talking openly about sexuality, relationships, kink, and non-monogamy can feel vulnerable, especially if you’ve had experiences of being misunderstood or judged. My role is to create a space where you can talk honestly about what’s happening without having to defend or justify your relationship structure or sexual interests.
My approach is collaborative, non-pathologizing, and grounded in compassion and curiosity. I won’t assume that kink or non-monogamy is the problem, or that you need to change who you are. We’ll focus on what brings you to counselling and work at a pace that feels right for you.
What can we address?
Exploring Kink & BDSM
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Exploring interests, desires, roles, or dynamics
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Exploring what kink means to you and how it fits into your life
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Communicating interests and needs with a partner
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Integrating kink into your sexuality and relationships
Communication & Negotiation
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Talking openly about wants, needs, and limits
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Negotiating scenes, dynamics, or relationship agreements
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Navigating differences in interests or comfort levels
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Developing clearer, more confident communication
Identity, Shame & Self-Acceptance
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Exploring your kink, sexual, or relationship identity
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Working through shame, internalized stigma or guilt
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Becoming more comfortable with your desires and fantasies
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Deciding when, how, or whether to disclose aspects of yourself to others
Polyamory & Non-Monogamy
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Exploring whether non-monogamy may feel right for you
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Navigating different relationship structures
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Communication across multiple relationships
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Adjusting as relationships develop and change
Boundaries & Consent
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Identifying and communicating boundaries
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Navigating changing limits and comfort levels
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Developing shared understandings around consent
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Exploring how power and responsibility operate within relationships or dynamics
Challenges in Kink, Non-Monogamy & Polyamory
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Navigating jealousy, insecurity, or comparison
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Differences in experience, interests, or expectations
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Adjusting to changes in relationships or dynamics
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Exploring what you need when a relationship or dynamic no longer feels fulfilling
Sexual health and wellbeing can involve many interconnected factors. When appropriate, I may recommend working with other healthcare providers to support your overall wellbeing.
